Do You Sometimes Wonder Why?

Do you sometimes wonder why people never give you the chance to ask them “what’s going on? Or what’s new, and how did you spend your day? And so on…even if you were the one who called or plan on talking to them? Alternatively, you are the one to receive those questions in the end. It is not any big deal or any research needed to know the reason why. The reason is your very self….even though you may have some wonderful people(friends) in your life that love you so dearly and do not even care whether you show them the same level of concern that they show you, but come on…. We are all human. For instance, I am one of those who love to show concern for people and don’t even care if they show the same, but equally so, I know that there are times that those people would need a little space for a while. So tell me, don’t you think that you need space too at times even if you are the only one who need love? On the other hand, don’t you feel that you need to show some love or concern for those wonderful people you have in your life at times?

These may sound unpleasant, but they all are part of life. I surely agree with this saying “life is how you make it.” True indeed! You will start to face those circumstances with people not giving you the chance to do things that you want, only if you choose to make your life to be control by them. I believe that the only Person (Friend) that should be in control of everything that happened in my life daily, and that Friend is Jesus Christ. There are just some things in one’s life that are not mean to be share with “man” “(human)” …. The moment you start to share those things with them, the more they would start to draw closer. You might think that it is a positive or normal thing to share every little problem that you encounter in life with your friends (the people in your life). Only because you feel that you cannot keep it to yourself anymore. However, you may never know what it might lead you to after telling them. The closer you start to draw your friends in your personal life by telling them all your problems, and thinking that that is the only way they will believe that you trust them, the worsen your friendship will become. The reason is that, your personal problems will now become the first priority of the friendship. All the fun and laughter will be overflow by your problems, and you would not have time to talk your friendship talks anymore because the time that should be use for friends time, will now be used on  going about solving problems or your friend may need some time off to think on who to help you solve them.

This is when the questions start to come in and your chances start to be limited. The more your problems become, the more your friends start to take control of your well-being. Even if everything become okay for a while, they would always be in readiness to hear something negative from you because you had made them to adapt such behavior towards you. The moment you call or meet them, they would not give you chance to ask because they will already be expecting to hear “what’s new.” This “what new” may sound positively to you, maybe because you are optimistic with everything, but at times it cannot be. Your friends might get tired with the complains because the friend that they had has now become their client…instead of them thinking on what surprise to give their friend or what friendly joke to share with their friend when they next meet, they will have to think on how to counsel you. As a result, the moment you meet them, your questions start to flow…”is everything ok?” “Did you sleep well?” and it goes on…

There are some very loving friends; no matter how worse you become with your thousands of problems, they will never leave your side. You would receive all the love, care, concern and…that you need, but one thing you should be prepare for is the giving away of your chances. Always be ready to receive than you give, and I know that as a very wonderful person you would not want to be the receiver all the time. As the bible said in “Luke 6:38 Give, and it shall be given unto you; good measure, pressed down, and shaken together, and running over, shall men give into your bosom. For with the same measure that ye mete withal it shall be measured to you again.” Learn to give to others, and you can only do this by avoiding your problems from overtaking the relationship you share with others. If you think that things are too much for you to handle, remember that you are not always alone. You have a Friend that is there and will forever be there to hear your problems, and you will have the amount of chance you want to speak with Him. Learn to put your trust in God and God only. For He promised never to leave you nor forsake you…in “Deuteronomy 31:6 Be strong and of good courage, do not fear nor be afraid of them; for the LORD your God, He is the One who goes with you. He will not leave you nor forsake you.”

As we come this far, my God Almighty carry us through life and its challenges with success, and may His grace be upon us as we strive for the best ahead.